When I sat down to write this my title said "Not Much Going On" but as I started writing I decided the title needed to be changed. There is a lot going on!!
Brayden had her 2 month check up today. She looks and is doing great! She weighs 9 lbs 12 oz and is 21 3/4 in long. I think that puts her in the mid-twenties for the percentiles. She is gaining weight well which means the breastfeeding is going well. I am glad I stuck with it and didn't give up like I wanted to 6 weeks ago. It is getting so much easier! Poor baby also got 5 shots today. YUCK!! She was a trooper and was asleep 10 minutes later. Luckily, she won't remember is for too long. Brayden is also still sleeping through the night. She usually lays down around 11 and wakes up at 6 or 6:30 in the morning. Can't ask for anything more than that!! It feels so nice to wake up with a good night's sleep. I am starting to feel human again!
Kennan is still doing great with Brayden around. He loves to help and wants to look at her all the time. We haven't run into any major jealousy issues which is nice. He still says the cutest things...Sunday on the way to church he started singing Old MacDonald. He said "kitten" and made the noises and went back through to sing another verse. He said kitten again, stops, and said "Oh wait, I did that one already" and proceeded with "horse". It was pretty cute. He has Kenny and I on the floor laughing somedays.
Kenny is back in school. He likes all of his classes and had already read 2 full books. I don't know how he does it. He is leaving this weekend for a conference in Kentucky. I decided I wasn't ready to handle both kids by myself so my mom is coming in tomorrow to help me out. I am excited she is going to be here. It will be fun to visit, play some games, and watch her play with Kennan and Brayden. We are supposed to have another beautiful weekend, so we plan to make a trip to the orchard and play outside a lot!
Our most recent excitement...Today Kennan went to school. I got a call right after Brayden had gotten her shots (she was screaming) and I heard the director of the center say that Kennan got bit AGAIN at school (it happened first about 2 weeks ago). There is a boy in the class who likes to bite and has bitten almost every kid in the class. Needless to say, I was FURIOUS. Kenny met me up at the school and we talked to the director. Pretty much, they aren't going to do anything about it. I want a 3rd teacher in the room at all times whose sole responsibility is to watch this kid like a hawk. Kenny and I called the person above the school's director in hopes to have a meeting with him. We aren't going to send Kennan back until the problem is resolved. I will not send my child to a place that is supposed to be a "safe environment" (from the mission statement) and have him get bit by a kid who wants his toy. Now I feel like Kennan is being punished because we aren't going to send him. He loves going, but I don't want anything else to happen to him. I also don't want him to start fearing the "school" setting. I want him to be able to go to school, away from mom and dad, without the fear of being hurt. Has any one out there experienced this?? Any suggestions??
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we are fortunate enough to have a daycare that will sit down with the parents of the "problem" child AND the parents of the "other" child....unless one or the other isn't willing. BUT if a parent isn't willing to try to discipline, and work it out they do not have a place for that child.
I say find a place that respects you and the way you raise your children
Wow! What a frustrating situation! I would be furious also!
I don't blame you for keeping Kennan out until the situation is resolved. I completely agree with your reasoning. I know who I'll be calling for advice when I have kids!
I don't have much advice to offer and I know this is totally unfair for all of you, but you may want to start looking into new preschools for Kennan. If the school isn't willing to work with you on this situation, who knows what will happen when/if another situation arises!
When I worked at a preschool with a biter that wouldn't stop, the director told the parents of the biter that he couldn't come back. That is what should be done. Did you tell them that Kennan wasn't going to come back until they decided to do something about it?
jeri
Have you talked to the parents of the other "victims"? If they agree that something needs to be done, then you have some bargaining power. When you meet with the director's supervisor you could point out that the preschool is at risk of losing other students (i.e. tuition dollars) if they continue to allow the biter to bully and victimize the students.
With that said, biting is a very common problem for preschoolers and he will eventually grow out of it. However, teaching the other students to push him away is not going to teach him how to use his words and find socially acceptable ways to deal with other kids and communicate properly. As he gets older he will just find other ways to bully kids.
Pray about it, and then go be an advocate for your child and many others.
PS: I work in public schools
i know how to solve it completely... ask the director where to send the bill for the bloodwork that was done on your child. you know, auto-immune tests, transferable illness tests?! the precautions you took to make sure your child is still healthy. THEN! and ask that the results of THE BITING CHILD'S bloodwork, proving there are NO transferable illnesses, be sent to your doctor and your attorney. then ask the director, if she cannot do such things, ask her if she or the facility is ready to be personally responsible for liftetime healthcare costs received by transferable viruses.
is this harsh? you'd better believe it! take pictures of the bite marks, too! just read this article and make sure you scroll all the way down to the part at the bottom where it tells you exactly what can be passed in a bite from another child:
http://www.mehtachildcare.com/misc/classinfecs.htm
this is not something to himhaw around with!
Maybe you could promote some change by bringing this to the attention of local papers. Since the preschool is associated with a seminary, maybe even the New Yrk Times would be intrested. That wood show them! No more pushing this problem under the rug. Also, if other parents boycot too, that could help. What is the school thinking?
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